What would you describe as your ideal life? Maybe the perfect life for someone is relaxing in the sun, next to a pool all day every day. Or maybe being extremely wealthy constitutes someone else’s ‘perfect’ life. Perhaps your ideal life is simply to have a family and a house on a couple of acres where you can raise livestock or crops. Regardless of what that looks like to you, this thought of an ideal life is in the back of all of our minds. Everything we do on a daily basis is influenced in part by how it will help put us in a better position in the future.
Personally, I have done a lot of thinking about what my ideal life would be. Having that in mind has helped me decide to pursue a college degree. It helped me decide to attend WIU after I finished my associate’s degree at Black Hawk East. Looking to the future has motivated me strongly to get involved in livestock judging while at college. And there is a multitude of other difficult decisions I have made with the future in mind, as obvious as that might seem.
Jack of all trades
Growing up with four younger siblings on a family farm, it would be an understatement to say we were busy. Between sports practices, school, 4H, and the inevitable chores at home, many friends and relatives would joke with my family about not finding time to sleep. And it often felt like that. From a young age, my parents made two things very clear to me. First, you can never know if you will like something if you don’t try it. And second, you are ALWAYS expected to help out at home. I used to think these two ‘rules’ really conflicted with each other. Being a four-sport athlete also involved in student council, FFA, and numerous other activities throughout high school I took the first one to heart. I tried everything I could. And more often than not, I enjoyed it.
That dreaded second rule was difficult though. After showing up to school at six o’clock most mornings for sports practices or meetings, then staying often until six or seven o’clock each evening after school, the last thing I wanted to do at home was haul round bales or work with calves late into the night. But it happened, more often than not. This busy life felt like it was wearing me thin at the time. But looking back on it, as well as ahead at my future, it is exactly what was needed to prepare me for where I am now.

It is the journey, not the destination
In my free time, I enjoy listening to podcasts of all kinds. In particular, I have a fascination with listening to conversations of people much smarter than I could ever hope to be discussing subjects I can at most barely grasp. This has led me to a prominent Canadian Psychologist named Jordan Peterson. Mr. Peterson has streamed many of his lectures over philosophical topics as well as interviews on his podcast channel, and one topic he delves into regularly never fails to pique my interest. His analysis of ‘happiness’ for lack of a better term hit me hard a few years ago when he explained rather straightforwardly, yet profoundly that “we are not happy, technically speaking, unless we see ourselves progressing- and the very idea of progression implies value”. It was only after I got to college and did not have things to keep me occupied essentially around the clock that this quote clicked with me. Looking back on my high school experience, it is not the tired, achy feelings in the morning that stick out. It is the academic all-state in cross country or being valedictorian of my graduating class that I remember.
Turning back toward the future, this is a major factor in making decisions today. I purposely put as much on my plate as I can possibly handle. Because then, when I am able to ‘handle’ it, I will not only have a fuller sense of accomplishment, but practically speaking, I will literally have accomplished more. All those years of my parents pushing me to my limit, that progression was what they were aiming at. It just wasn’t articulated. Obviously, balance is necessary for life. But so is growth. And the only way to grow is through discomfort. So there is genuinely nothing I would trade my ‘busy’ childhood for looking back. And looking to the future, my idea of the ideal life is a busy life. Because if you are working on something, you are working toward something. And it is in that progress toward a goal that not only where the best lessons are learned, but that is where happiness itself can truly be found.
“We are not happy, technically speaking, unless we see ourselves progressing- and the very idea of progression implies value”
-Jordan B. Peterson, Canadian clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology
About the Author
Hello, my name is Jeb Schwager and I am from Bellevue, Iowa. I am currently a junior at Western Illinois University where I am majoring in Ag Business and minoring in Animal Science along with Political Science. I would like to thank you for reading my blog!







